In ‘The Woman in Me,’ a Free Britney Spears Explains How She Survived the Men in Her Life.
Throughout history, the media and society have often reveled in the downfall of young women, a grim pattern that persists even today. Notable examples include Judy Garland, who was introduced to amphetamines at just 16 during the filming of “The Wizard of Oz” in 1938, Frances Farmer, who was involuntarily institutionalized in 1942, and Dorothy Stratten, tragically murdered by her ex-manager in 1980 at the tender age of 20.
In this context, we turn our attention to Britney Spears, born a year after Stratten’s untimely death. Her recently published memoir, “The Woman in Me,” paints a poignant picture, suggesting that little has changed when it comes to protecting the well-being of the women we claim to cherish.
Fast forward to 2021, the height of the COVID pandemic, when Britney Spears virtually appeared in a Los Angeles courtroom, desperately pleading for her freedom. Here was a global superstar, having sold millions of records, headlined sold-out world tours, and maintained a lucrative Las Vegas residency, begging to be released from her father’s controlling grip, a 13-year conservatorship that stifled her every move.
Spears’s voice quivered with fear as she began her plea: “My voice had been used for me, and against me, so many times I was afraid nobody would recognize it now if I spoke freely. What if they called me crazy? What if they said I was lying?”
Surprisingly, her appeal to the judge focused not on the millions her father had allegedly drained from her during the conservatorship but on a more fundamental plea—for her basic human rights. “I deserve to have the same rights as anybody does,” she insisted. “By having a child, a family, any of those things.”
The bizarre and tragic tale of how the most prominent female pop star of the post-Madonna era found herself fighting for basic human rights reads like a blend of old-school Faulkner and post-modern Nathaniel West. Raised in Kenwood, Louisiana, by James Spears, a tyrannical alcoholic father marked by a history of brutality and trauma, Britney’s upbringing was far from idyllic. James had been a local sports legend, struggling to navigate life after the spotlight dimmed. Marrying Lynne, a local beauty, she served him divorce papers in 1980, citing his drinking and violence before retracting and having three children, with Britney being the eldest.
One of Britney’s early memories involves her mother’s screams as she confronted her drunken and incoherent father, instructing her to “Just feed him and go put him to bed, he’s sick.” Her father’s periodic disappearances were a relief to the family. It is astonishing that this very James Spears was granted conservatorship over his daughter for 13 years.
Britney acknowledges her own accountability but underscores that most of those responsible for her tumultuous journey were men. Ed McMahon once inappropriately asked a young Britney if he could be her boyfriend. Justin Timberlake, her first love, pressured her into an abortion, which she endured at home to preserve her carefully crafted image as a virgin at 20. Timberlake went on to fuel his career with “Justified,” an album that painted him as the wronged party in their relationship, despite Spears painting him as a “skeezy player.”
Then came Kevin Federline, who withheld information about his existing children and went on to father two more with Britney. He attempted a failed rap career, using his wife as a stepping stone, all while keeping her away from their kids. The paparazzi, predominantly male, relentlessly pursued her, and late-night talk show hosts, also mostly men, made a spectacle of her struggles, from her head-shaving incident to her altercation with a paparazzo’s car using an umbrella.
Her male interviewers, too, displayed disconcerting behavior, with uncomfortable comments about her breasts and plastic surgery.
Britney recounts these experiences matter-of-factly, avoiding ad hominem attacks, except for a few well-placed jabs, including a humorous anecdote about Timberlake’s fanboy encounter with one of his rap heroes.
Britney’s life took a fateful turn after the birth of her two sons, Sean and Jayden, within a year of each other in 2006. She spiraled into postpartum depression, leading to Federline gaining custody of their children. Postpartum depression, the abandonment by her husband, paparazzi pressure, and a lack of support culminated in a mindset characterized as childlike.
In 2008, after a visit with her sons, Spears panicked, locked herself in a bathroom with one of her children, and the police were called. This marked one of many hospitalizations initiated by the men in her life. She agreed to treatments when threatened with the loss of all access to her children.
The culmination of her nightmare came when her father, Jamie Spears, declared that she was not mentally fit to control her life, even restricting her diet, and preventing her from eating cheeseburgers. Yet, she was deemed fit to embark on world tours and perform in a Las Vegas residency.
Even during her performances, her life was controlled. She recounts how she was prohibited from altering the setlist during her Vegas residency, unable to have any creative input.
A later hospitalization broke her spirit, leading to long-term commitment. She was prescribed Lithium, a drug her grandmother had been forcefully medicated with. A nurse enlightened her about the #FreeBritney fan movement. In 2021, she finally found her way to freedom—dialing 911 to report her father’s abusive conservatorship.
However, emancipation didn’t mark the start of an idyllic life. Britney’s refusal to speak about her book in interviews, her recent divorce, and her strained relationship with her sons suggest that the scars of her tumultuous past are far from healed. She grapples with frequent migraines, which she attributes to her years of family turmoil.
In conclusion, Britney Spears’s life remains turbulent, Britney Spears’ life is again chaotic, but at least her life is her own. Her story serves as a stark reminder that no one should have the power to strip away an individual’s autonomy. The lessons we should have learned from her ordeal are sobering, and her experience should be a catalyst for change. Yet, the tabloid culture and the mistreatment of public figures, especially women, persist, indicating that the lessons of her life have yet to be fully absorbed.
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